How
to Sleep Your Way to Better Sex
Remember having sex
when it was so all-consuming and thrilling it was all you could
think about for days? Days of anticipation, mind-blowing, body-shaking
sex, then remembering it for days or even years afterwards…
Either that was a long
time ago for you and you’d like to have that kind of sex
in your life again. Or you’re having that kind of sex at
this point in your life. Whichever description you identify with,
you could be making a mistake that is reducing the quantity and
quality of your sex life. You might not be getting enough good
sleep.
First, a technical
term. Getting an adequate amount of sound sleep on a regular schedule
is called good sleep hygiene. Hygiene is about maintaining health.
So “sleep hygiene,” rather than being something sterile
and clinical as the phrase sounds, is what you need for better
sex.
Picture an upwardly
mobile couple with three children. Both parents work and the children
are in school, which means they have activities: homework, science
projects, things they need for school that they forgot to tell
their parents till the night before. We’ve all known families
like that. How much great sex do you think the parents have? They
probably schedule love-making. Nothing wrong with scheduling it,
just so long as both parties feel up to it when the time comes.
That is, sadly, rarely the case these days.
While there are numerous
websites offering hilarious lists of calories burned during sex
(for example: 12 calories taking her clothes off with her consent,
but without it…), sexual play can be vigorous exercise,
potentially equal to a half-hour walk. There are too many variables
to make an accurate generalization for all parties, but if you’ve
ever felt completely drained afterwards, you had a great workout!
You can’t do
that without adequate sleep. At least not consistently. In new
relationships, partners often are so sleep-deprived, they say,
“We’re living on love.” But if the newly-in-love
continue at that pace for a long period of time, libido will start
waning. Both will eventually “just want to get some sleep.”
Besides inadequate
sleep from too few hours in bed, enough hours in bed but not enough
sleep also reduces sexual performance. One of the most common
disturbances is snoring. If the snoring is not too loud, many
lovers learn to live with it, or put a pillow over their ears
so their partner can snore on. The problem is not only that snoring
can anger the lighter-sleeping partner and build resentment, however
subtle. The major problem is that while a person is snoring, he
or she is not sleeping and—worse yet—not getting enough
oxygen to the brain.
Snoring usually represents
a condition known as sleep apnea. Sleep apnea can be fatal. If
the non-snoring partner considers this for a few minutes the next
time her husband or boyfriend shakes the timbers with his snore,
she’ll be wide awake for hours thinking about how she will
survive (or thrive) without him!
The snorer has problems,
too. He (or she) is sleepy during the day and may also be irritable.
Irritability and romance do not go hand in hand. Who wants to
make love to someone who’s been grouchy all day?
Sleep apnea also reduces
hormone levels essential to sex drive. If your lover has lost
his or her libido, lack of sleep could be the cause.
Medications can also
reduce libido. And the ability to sleep well. On the other hand,
adequate rest--including mental rest—can reduce the need
for medication or reduce dosage requirements. Wherever medication
is involved, checking with a physician is critical.
Everyone has a sleep
issue from time to time and I’ve found a surprising solution
that helps – it’s called “Digital Sandman”
by a company called Holothink (http://www.digitalsandman.com).
You listen to an audio program that helps your mind calm down
into a “sleep ready state”. Works great and they probably
have no idea how much it’s improved my own sex life!
Many factors affect
sleep quality, and therefore sex frequency and quality. Proper
diet, enough exercise, mental stimulation, adequate fluid intake—basically
all the things we know make us healthy make us sexually potent
as well. Healthy bodies are sexy bodies.
But in today’s
society, attention to exercise, diet and all the rest, don’t
always provide complete support for sound, refreshing
sleep. Stress and worry can keep us tossing and turning even
though we’re otherwise super-healthy. All these factors
are involved. Sex is a built-in, god-given desire, the realization
of which floods the body with feel-good hormones that improve
our quality of life and ability to cope with what’s coming
next. Deep sound sleep is similarly hard-wired into us. It is
the setting for regeneration of cells and electro-chemical resetting
for the next day of awakeness.
Anything that makes
it easier to get good quality sleep has equal potential to improve
your sex life.
Holothink
offers many products designed to help you improve your mental
functioning. Their Digital Sandman package (HIGHLY RECOMMENDED)
covers the full range of sleep issues with tracks including Power
Napper, Sleep Support, Overcoming Insomnia and Digital Sandman
to help you sleep better (and improve your sex life!).
Visit http://www.DigitalSandman.com
to try a free demo.
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